Is one? In one? Or Both? #25 #cong19

Synopsis:

The emphasis on community invariably leans towards the town or village in which people live or the club to which they belong. There are acres of literature on the benefits of successful communities in these areas
But what about creating a community within a business to realise some of those benefits?
This paper explores some of the benefits and difficulties of doing so

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. Creating a real community within a business takes time.
  2. It challenges everyone – especially managers
  3. It can be risky but the benefits are substantial

About Paul Passemard:

I am an engineer by background and worked in the oil industry for 25 years before setting up a management consultancy that worked across the private sector, central UK government and local authorities

Contacting Paul Passemard:

You can contact Paul by email

By Paul Passemard

If you Google ‘businesses, communities’ and include whatever other qualifying words you care to insert, the search engine reveals an interesting and very one-sided set of websites and commentaries.

One result of the search shows a significant emphasis on exhorting businesses in the community to display social responsibility, to become involved with the community, to make charitable donations, to provide local jobs, to buy locally and how it is good for the business if employees volunteer to do work in the community.

With the same Google search there is significant other content in the same vein – covering how to build effective and vibrant communities in your local town or village. Some of these searches describe a number of the characteristics displayed by successful communities

  • Shared vision
  • Common values
  • Maximising individuals’ strengths
  • Balancing the needs of the leadership group
  • Working as a team
  • Mobilising others
  • Pitching in – participating
  • Taking responsibility – being accountable to the community
  • Looking ahead
  • Recruiting and mentoring new leaders
  • Walking beside and not leading from above

Does this sound familiar? The words may not be in strict management speak but doesn’t it sound almost exactly like the characteristics you would want to see in your business? The way you would want you and your employees to behave and work?

So, the question is – is your business a community and if not why not? Is your business missing out on the most beneficial aspects of community by not being one?

Let’s re-introduce some more familiar management language and examine some of these characteristics in more detail.

Shared vision.

Perhaps the single most important element in a real business community is a commitment by its members to a shared vision of the future. There must be a consensus on the answer to the question, what does the community (business) want to be when it grows up?

The failure to reach agreement on the group’s mission has led to the demise of many a would-be community. If management’s vision of the future is grounded entirely on profits, stock options, executive bonuses, and special privileges, then community is impossible to achieve with a group of employees in search of job security, higher wages, and increased fringe benefits.

Common values.

Shared common values are another important characteristic of a business community. In workplace communities’ employees and managers alike view themselves as parts of an integrated whole pursuing, a common mission which is consistent with their own personal values. If there is nothing more to the business or the organisation than each individual looking out only for his or her self-interest, then community will never be.

Cooperation, trust, and human empathy are among some of the shared values, which are vital to the formation and survival of communities.

Boundaries.

In every community there is an ongoing tension between the group’s need for exclusivity on the one hand and the desire for inclusiveness on the other hand. To manage this, it is important for the community to have boundaries. A workplace without boundaries will not remain a community very long.

Associated with participation in a business community or team should be responsibility, sharing and well-defined performance expectations. Teams working within a community also require limits and boundaries.

Empowerment.

Perhaps the most troublesome and difficult attribute of a workplace community is empowerment — the creation of a system of governance and a community decision-making process, which empowers all community members;

Unfortunately, many corporate managers are into having — owning, manipulating, and controlling money, power, people, and things. They need to be in control, and often display behavioural patterns, which are aggressive, competitive, and antagonistic. Those in the having mode are afraid of losing what they have to someone else.

Power sharing may be very threatening to corporate managers. For an organisation to have the possibility of becoming a true community, its leaders must be prepared to risk some loss of control. This is a higher price than most corporate executives are prepared to pay. This also gets to the crux of why there are very few real workplace communities.

Some company senior executives naively believe that community can be mandated.  Community cannot be ordered from above. Top-down community-building initiatives are perceived by employees as deceptive attempts by management to manipulate them.

Education. Recruiting and Mentoring New Leaders

Despite the many virtues of community, life in a workplace community is not without its issues There is often a low tolerance for nonconformity and opinions, which differ from the community norm. Invasion of privacy and nosiness are not uncommon. Rarely are envy, greed, and competitiveness absent from such workplace groups.

For all of these reasons, it is important for the community to have an effective education and training programme to teach members community values, decision-making, governance, responsibility, growth and development, power sharing, and tension reduction.

Is it worth it?

From all of the above it is clear that there are no shortcuts to community in the workplace. We may say we want community, but do we want to risk the time and energy that community requires? Are we prepared to pay the price in terms of loss of our cherished individualism necessary to sustain community?

Under the most ideal circumstances, community building in the workplace is a slow and tedious process. The risk of failure is substantial. But the possible benefits include improved morale, reduced absenteeism, increased productivity, and more meaningful lives for all concerned.

Is it time for New Paradigm for Community? #24 #cong19

Synopsis:

Perhaps we should have started to think about ‘community’ ten or fifteen years ago but it’s not too late. If we made mistakes in the past, the biggest was not having a clear vision for our community, and this inhibited the decisions we needed to make.
The good news is that we get to choose the story of our community, but we must, as the late Dr. Stephen Covey suggested, start with the end in mind and write a fairy tale ending. We get to choose the characters; we might even get to choose the Hero.

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. The best time to build a community was 10-15 years ago, the next best time is Now.
  2. We need to start the story of community with the end in mind
  3. We do need to get serious about slewing carbon-breathing dragons
  4. We get to write a narrative with ourselves as the Hero.

About Bernard Joyce:

Bernard Joyce is from rural Mayo doing many of the things that people in rural Mayo do, like coaching GAA and soccer. He likes to run, sing, play a bit of trad music and has recently taken up Yin Yoga. Never really took to farming though so ended up planting 36,000 trees and now classes himself as a carbon farmer, though was spotted recently in Athenry Mart, eyeing a few Galway Sheep! Recently completed a MSc in Management for Sustainable Development with a dissertation on Climate Change Adaptation and Local Economic Community Planning. Volunteers as a Cool Planet Champion for Mayo and is actively involved with Grow Remote in promoting Remote Work in Mayo as a way of revitalising rural areas and getting cars off the road. Working at the moment on a project about Community Investment Models for Renewable Energy and building an app called Villigr to help get more people engaging in decision-making with support from Social Entrepreneurs Ireland. (Villigr.Eu)

Contacting Bernard Joyce:

You can contact Bernard by email, follow him on Twitter, connect with him on LinkedIn or see his work on Villigr.

By Bernard Joyce

There is a saying that the best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago. The next best time is Now.

The same could apply to building a community, the best time was possibly 10 to 15 years ago. We had been on a bit of a binge of building houses and apartments up until then but when it came to communities, it was more of a demolition job. In fact, when the old brown stuff hit the fan, we ended up demolishing the houses and apartments we had just built.

The economically illiterate among us were offered the ladybird book on the miracle of unbounded economic growth as, “well, imagine a tiger, and now imagine a tiger that is Celtic, there you go, just enjoy it”…and then, “well it wasn’t a tiger anymore but, well, here is the thing, imagine a bubble, and what happens a bubble…? There you go again, but never mind, oh look! New BMW!”

The economists turned authors now cast the tiger as a wolf, in well, tigers clothing in the revised fairy tale. We were all scolded for straying off the path and not having noticed Granny’s excessive incisors!
But the Magic ReadyMix Porridge Pot stopped pouring its’ cheap credit and even cheaper concrete. Goldilocks, the Three Bears along with the Three Pigs were bundled into cheap hotel rooms until someone could write the Happy Ever After ending.

Dr. Stephen Covey, in his “Eight Habits of Highly Effective People” suggests that we should. “Start with the End in Mind” and that is not something we have been good at doing in Ireland. Too many stories have ended in tears, real tears.

We can’t, of course go back and rebuild community as it should have been. We only have, as the philosopher advises, the present. We must do it now, but we must start with the end in mind.

The 16-year-old Swedish climate activist, Greta Thunberg fears that there might not be a fairy tale ending, certainly not for the children who are hoping to see out the end of the century.

We should have acted earlier, we should have kept people at work during the downturn by retrofitting our building stock, rolling out renewable energy, developing innovative solutions…but we didn’t…we have only now and lots of hindsight.

But now, we get to write a new story, we get to choose new characters, we get to set the scene but most importantly, we get to write the ending.

It is time for a New Paradigm for Community, one where we get to start with the end in mind. That end can be one of catastrophe, or can be a fairy tale ending, driven by our imaginations, where we get to slew the carbon breathing dragon for once and for all.

Dragons of course, only exist in stories, and tend to be a bit of nuisance until the hero finally emerges victorious at the end of the story.

When we talk to communities about what the next steps to make their town, or village, or city or neighbourhood more resilient, we don’t always know where to start. By starting at the end, we get to trace our steps back. There are many stories and narratives going on in our communities at the one time, there may be different visions, there may be complexities.

All that means is that our story becomes more colourful, the ending more powerful. The Hero may not emerge at the very beginning. That Hero might be You.

Take five minutes now to write the fairy tale ending for your community, then share it with 5 other people…and just wait for the magic!

Tribal or Google Rules #23 #cong19

Synopsis:

Our society is based on values developed by tribes and communities based in the past. Technology has blasted itself into our lives, making us question how we should act in society now. We are unprepared for this pace and how it affects our online and offline communities. How can we begin to lay down human values that can help, nurture, respect and care for future human society?

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. Tribal collective knowledge, We can learn from the past not to continually shoot ourselves in the foot.
  2. Because you can build something doesn’t mean you should.
  3. We are losing more than our identity, we are losing our sense of self.
  4. Respect is as important as empathy to survive in this coming robotic age.

About Geraldine O'Brien:

I qualified from DIT in 1977 with a Dip I.D. I worked in New York and London using my design skills Then returning to Ireland in the 1980s worked with Kilkenny Design for six years before starting my own practice Geraldine O’Brien Design (1986-2009). My experience at Kilkenny Design influenced my freelance work considerably both as a designer and educator.

I have always sought variety in my interior/exhibition work and welcome the challenge and the opportunity for personal development. Projects have ranged from rehousing of Magdalen women to purpose built accommodation, refurbishment of a five storey Fitzwilliam Square Georgian house and mews, sheltered accommodation, nursing homes, general residential interiors and exhibitions for the craft industry.

I was commissioned by The Crafts Council of Ireland to deliver a training programme to benefit emerging crafts people across the country and developed a format incorporating lectures, mentoring and provision of workshops between 1986-1998.

Since 2009 I have been in practice with my husband in our firm McCarthy O’Brien Architects and Designers. MCOB in Dublin. We have two adult children in professional careers.

What is fundamental to the way I work, whether designing an interior, an exhibition or a craft display, is listening to the client or craft maker, getting to know their style and their story so as to create a space and ambience that preserves their individuality and help them create something special.

Contacting Geraldine O'Brien:

You can contact Geraldine by email or connect with her on LinkedIn.

By Geraldine O’Brien

The african tribal saying “it takes a tribe to raise a child” speaks of the collective knowledge in society and the importance of passing the knowledge down to younger generations. In Nigeria, where this saying is said to have originated, tribal elders were the keepers of this knowledge and it took the work of the tribe as a whole for the collective to survive. 

The internet has enabled us to communicate across borders engaging with humans and robots alike expanding the world-community in an unprecedented way. Google is now the keeper of much of the world’s collective knowledge, it is no longer hand-picked by the tribe or community elders to align with the traditional social values and customs accepted by our communities. Instead technology companies are deciding what is acceptable, based on free business models driven by profits for shareholders. This is done through terms and conditions which are primarily built to protect the platform and less-so the user. What about human values, customs and traditions ? It seems this responsibility is delegated to state regulation. 

The saying “build it and they will come” doesn’t mean just because you can build it you should, which is often the way with tech-startup culture.

Edelman’s annual trust barometer indicates that it’s incredibly hard to restore trust once it’s lost or damaged and more recently many technology companies have begun to experience the unintended circumstances of their actions.

A recent example of broken trust in a company was Theranos, a now defunct US technology company. The company convinced investors to invest $724 million in their business which sought to deliver a finger prick blood technology to detect several diseases. The company was excessively secretive and they fooled their investors for some time. Internal whistleblowers exposed the companies shortcomings and it is now under investigation for fraud. One such whistleblower employee Erika Cheung, learned from her bad experiences with Theranos, and went on to found a nonprofit called Ethics in Entrepreneurship  their mission is to educate startups and businesses in ethical challenges and build tools to support them. It’s encouraging to see companies empowering technology for good.

Facebook regularly turned their customers into test beds, experimenting on live users without their knowledge or consent and using that personal information for their sole gain.  Surrendering your date of birth, contact information and image rights essentially our biometric data has become par for the course when signing up to big platforms and once given is not easily retrieved. 

I am someone who hates having my picture taken and I was recently told that I shared this affliction with South Sea Islanders, however, the reasons why may differ. The Islanders are said to believe that having your photograph captured could take your soul or your spirit. Images are now big business and are monetised in many ways, some of which take advantage of our personal identity data. This includes our memories, thoughts and knowledge, vital parts of our identity. To preserve who we are, it’s important for humanity to protect our personal identity including our DNA. Our identity comes in many forms; our biometrics but also our less tangible self, our presence on this planet. They are part of our stamp on life and tell the story of the imprint of our time.

We the customers seem to have become the product yet we are paying with our personal identity data. Companies that continually test products and services and put trust at the cornerstone of business recognise the importance of looking after their community. Is it time that we as a society implement rules that mandate the protection of customers over products or services ? Perhaps this so called “free” advertising model could evolve into a “we pay you for your data” model as users now understand the value of their data.

There are many recent examples of a customers personal identity being left compromised by online businesses.The minimal recent fines that have been ordered in response to such incidents in the technology industry are only a slap on the wrist. In many of these cases often it is only in the future that the extent of human damage caused comes to light.

Dr Jonny Walker an Australian radiologist and serial health entrepreneur who has worked with aboriginals in the outback spoke about their traditions, cultures and beliefs. Walker has spoken of how a tribal member “being shown the bone”  by their tribe, specifically the tribal elders, resulted in a sentence of ostracisation the most severe sentence that could be administered leading to extreme isolation. Humans are social animals and the loss of human touch and interaction can cause us to lose our physical sense of self and identity.

Experiencing isolation or alienation is not an unusual occurrence in online communities, although to survive humans need to be nurtured. Cultivating a sense of belonging, connection, and respect is vital for the health of the tribe. To me these values are the essential ingredients for the human cause in the fight against a cyborg society.

It’s no longer strange to see people walking down the street talking to themselves, and not taking in their surroundings. Technology allows us to connect with family and friends world-wide all the time, however, an occasional emergence from our tech bubble to reconnect with humanity is beneficial for our emotional health. I am fighting back in my own ways, acknowledging people as I pass them on the street with a smile, a nod, a wave, or a comment.  Asking after the person who is serving me in shops restaurants, trying to make a point to say thank you especially on buses. I sometimes find myself apologising to my dogs, spiders, flowers etc. when I unintentionally hurt things, I have kept this secret to myself until recently as it makes me sound more nutty than I already appear. I look at it as fighting for my own humanity in the struggle against the cyborgs. Maybe in the future we will speak to IOS devices, chat bots, etc. with the same respect, as its about values. 

The Irish State is currently gathering sensitive citizens data in defiance of its own data regulator Helen Dixon, within the remit of the Personal Services Card it will be breathtaking to see how this works out. European Court of Justice previously ruled in favour on a case brought by Digital Rights Ireland.

That data gathering must have a clear legal purpose and be transparent and proportionate is the basis for data protection laws.

It’s a dangerous time when our Government takes its own regulator to court. Especially when Ireland is home to so many large data gathering companies. We need to be sending a clear message to technology and other business that it is our humanity that is at stake.

To me it’s clear; if we are to survive the robotic age we need to remember to respect, nurture and consider others in our community regardless if we find ourselves online or off.

 

What are people searching for when they search for community? #22 #cong19

Synopsis:

What we can learn from the various terms people use when they search for terms like “community” and the related questions.

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. Community is a great TV show
  2. So many are searching for the meaning/definition of community
  3. People are invested in community
  4. Even salads have communities!

About Rose Barrett:

A Galway woman who moved to Mayo because she could and would like others to have that same freedom. Grow Remote elf, part-time kayaker (too part-time).

Contacting Rose Barrett:

You can follow Rose on Twitter or send her an email.

By Rose Barrett

What are people searching for when they search for community?

I mean literally.

I find it’s an interesting world in the land of search engines. We can learn so much from how and what people are searching for, uncovering desires and sometimes things that aren’t even clear to the searcher.

“Community”

The word “community” – what are people searching for (In Ireland specifically)?

  • community (TV show or term, it’s a bit of an uneven split) – [2,900/mth]
  • community games (egg and spoon anyone?) – [2,400/mth]
  • community credit union – [1,300/mth]
  • community welfare officer – [1,000/mth]
  • community shield (I had to look this one up, football it seems!) -[1,000/mth]
  • community centre/center – [1,000/mth]

And on and on.

When people are searching for the word “community” by itself, in Ireland, approximately 880 of them head off to the Wiki for the TV show (it is very good) but a good 460+ head to the Wiki on the term community.

And I think there’s good reason for this. Many people ponder what community means, particularly those working to build, strenghten or improve communities.

I’ve seen people cringe at the use of the word because it’s meaning has been tarnished and I wonder how we can take it back? Or should we even bother?

So back to those searchers – you might be heartened to learn that out of those people searching for the word “community” approximately 190/mth of them visit the website https://www.communityfoundation.ie/ . This signals people who are looking to take action, involved in a community or looking for ways to give back. And if only a fraction of that number are taking action then I’m living in hope.

Another 43/mth (estimate) are visiting https://www.communityworkireland.ie/
seeing what sites people are visiting gives us a great insight into what people are interested in, what they are working on and looking to achieve.

And an honourable mention to Fingal CoCo who are getting a very healthy 32/mth visitors to their page about “Community and Leisure” where citizens can learn about programs, public spaces and projects. This should be standard across all local authories and communities, where citizens know how and where to access this information.

Searching for community…

Approximately 320 people per month are searching for the term “community definition”. A little over 90 of them each month are heading for a medium article titled “What does “community” even mean? A definition attempt & conversation starter.” where we learn that even salads have communities now (it’s on Facebook, of course). I also discovered a very interesting tool called “The Community Canvas” which warrants further investigation.

I find this so telling. 320/mth searches and, even more, telling that it’s an article they land on the most because after that article the next group of 50/mth searches is heading to the Merriam-Webster website. We can only guess that the second group are busy and need an answer now as to what community is, but the first group are more into storytelling?! From there it’s a mix of back to the “community” Wiki and of other dictionary websites.

For me the idea of community is so broad and depends so much on context that I’d like to see people accessing more varied articles and stories about what community might be for various groups.

“Community meaning” (140/mth) is bringing them on a similar route to above and “community synonym” (140/mth) might have been a good search for me to complete to help spice up this writing! No surprise that Thesauras.com get’s the lion’s share of that search.

Community Questions

And what about the questions that people ask around community?

  1. ” What is your definition of community? “
  2. ” What do you mean by a community? “
  3. ” What are the types of community? “
  4. ” Why is a community important? “
  5. ” What is the purpose of community?”

And much more. The specifics of the language is so important. Someone who asks “What is the benefit of community?” may need a different answer to someone asking about it’s purpose. And for us, the community people, the builders, strengtheners and action takers. Looking at the different words people use to ask their questions helps us to delve deeper into what community means to people, what it could mean and helping to answer the question of it is is (or might be).

We’re finding that we’re talking about community from many different angles in Grow Remote, from the community that is growing around the organisation, to the communities that we are striving to enable. So by taking time to consider these questions and how we might answer we look deeper into where we might find better language, better answers and better action. And if you’re still looking for some answers, well let me “Google” that for you!

 

You are Not the Boss of My Community #11 #cong19

Synopsis:

The best ideas come from communities solving their own problems. It’s almost always a team effort and no one person pulls it all together. When we stop looking for others to fix our problems and put our energy into finding solutions we have far greater success. The best communities are filled with people who found their own solutions and then held a table quiz.

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. Leaders need supportive teams.
  2. We can solve our own problems
  3. People are terribly hard on other people
  4. Communicate within your community and always mention the elephant in the room.

About Ailish Irvine:

Ailish Irvine is a freelance jack of all trades and master of none. She regularly mentions the elephant in the room. She is not afraid of taking the first step and tripping, tumbling and falling on her head. She has a new idea every day, (Didn’t say they were good ones).
She helps businesses, Community groups, Non Profits with funding, training, consultancy and she likes coffee and biscuits and laughing.

Contacting Ailish Irvine:

You can connect with Ailish on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn or by emailing her.

By Ailish Irvine

You’re not the boss of my Community.
Who makes the decisions in your Community? Who has the right? It’s key to equip people with a sense of responsibility for finding solutions to problems in their own area. The best communities know that the person with the idea is not the only important one. For a good idea to take shape there needs to be a team of supporters. People need help finding funding, organizing events, catering, decorating, sweeping, donning a high viz, and putting up bunting and selling raffle tickets. These are all very unique skills and no man is an island. It takes a community to raise a child (or a decent project in this case).

  1. Every town/ village thinks that they are the centre of the universe. They think that those in Government have let them down and that there are less resources in their community than everywhere else in the whole world.
  2. They spend a lot of time and energy complaining about what people have not done for their area. They usually complain to the person responsible who is more concerned about trying to deflect blame than find solutions.
  3. Communities working together are much better working together than against each other. Sounds simple, well it isn’t. Communities spend decades holding onto anger and resentment and bitterness rather than choosing an alternative path.
  4. People can achieve amazing things when they get out of their own way. That means when you encourage someone who has a solution and you validate their reasons for trying to make a change you give them a gift.
  5. Committees who have been in operation for a very long time get burnt out. It’s a simple fact. New blood that wants to rock up and show them how it’s done tend to come in energetic, enthusiastic and deeply critical. Things fall apart. Recognize the merits of those with more experience than you.
  6. Sometimes groups don’t know why they are together or what they are working towards. Be sure everyone knows why they are there. Have a mission statement or at least double check that everyone is on the one page about the cause.
  7. No man is an island. The best groups have a leader who makes them feel supported and listened to. The worst leaders listen to everyone and try to agree with everyone and try to keep everyone happy. A healthy dose of listening to opinions but taking a vote will speed things up. Everyone is never going to be on the one page and have the same opinion. When people are indecisive they push things onto agenda’s from one meeting to the next while people are afraid of mentioning the elephant in the room.
  8. Some people won’t step down because they are convinced the world will stop turning without them. It won’t.
  9. Communities working together and achieving success is like watching a gardener planting a seed and nurturing and caring for it until it grows. Birds will try and eat it, winds will try and damage it but when the gardener expects some problems and prepares for them, their garden will blossom.
  10. Even the most accomplished skilled leaders who look like they have it all together, need to hear the occasional thank you.
  11. If you are not there to contribute anything helpful get out of the way of the workers and let them get on with it.
  12. Someone who did zero work will always show up for the photograph. I don’t need to give examples you have all being shoved into a corner while someone more important rugby tackled you for poll position.
  13. Develop a thick skin early on. Anyone who starts to make progress in Ireland can be accused of being “in it for themselves” “running off with the money” “lining their own pockets” or “not giving the gig to our little Jimmy”. These things will happen don’t give them your energy.
  14. Committees that consult other groups in their area about when they are fundraising are appreciated. You do not want to take the grief of having organised a table quiz the same night as a fashion show somewhere in town.
  15. Appreciate your volunteers and remember they are volunteers and do not have to do what they are doing. Be realistic about commitment from volunteers, they have families and a life outside the organization they are VOLUNTEERING with. I regularly have to remind volunteers that they have a choice. You are allowed to turn up to your child’s Holy Communion if the GAA have a fundraiser on that day.
  16. If a community organizes an event and it is a complete disaster. Be honest. Reflect and consider what happened and what can be learned from it, then MOVE ON. Park it and learn.
  17. Get training and support for people when they are given a job. Don’t just tell them they have a job to do and assume they have the skills and knowledge to do it. Create an atmosphere where people are comfortable saying what they can/ can’t do.
  18. Have a plan B. Never have one person having the keys to the kingdom. I’ve seen too often disgruntled members taking off with passwords or denying access to social media/website logins etc.
  19. Have a sense of humour. Enjoy what you are doing. This may become your only social life so have fun when you are doing it. If you are not enjoying it anymore stop. Netflix has some great shows now.
  20. Value the contribution of everyone in the organization no matter how small the job they do. The person who loves selling raffle tickets is a vital asset to your cause.
  21. GIVE BACK. If you hold regular fundraisers where you are constantly asking from your community, then hold something where you give back to the community. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune but celebrate your successes and reward your volunteers. The tiniest of acknowledgements go along away and ensure sustainability and longevity in an organisation.

Only a Fool Would Say That – The LinkedIn international Community Phenomenon #10 #cong19

Synopsis:

A short essay on how an early adopter of open network LinkedIn has become a bit skeptical. Is it truly a fear that is founded in truth or is it influence from fear-mongering and how can we combat the trend that has headed us back to a closed society.

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. Trust – Who?
  2. Community – The World
  3. Fear and Hate vs Love and Peace
  4. Communication is the Key! Hands Across the Divide!

About Ginger Aarons:

Ginger is the founder of Time Travel, LLC … often called Time Travel Tours. She offers bespoke travel to Ireland & The British Isles. Also offering personal, bespoke requests for family genealogies. Passionate about what she does by offering a way to learn while you travel, introducing the best of the best in Ireland in what they do, offer and teach with common philosophies, ethics and goals for the world. She is also a travel and foodie writer for several magazines and online magazines. Often referred to as the one that knows everyone, she is a connector and one that is always making a connection for someone, because to her, that is what it’s all about.

Originally from South of the Mason Dixon Line, and after 30 years, she has become an all-around Portland girl that loves the fact that she gets to live and work in two of the best places in the world, the Pacific Northwest and Ireland … what could possibly be better?

Lover of music (it DOES make the world go ’round.. not money), a supporter of the arts, do-gooder, Masterpiece Theater watcher since the age of 12, a supporter of the historic house, genealogy nut and avid antique collector.

Contacting Ginger Aarons:

You can connect with Ginger on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Time Travel Tours or you can email her.

By Ginger Aarons

International Community and the Phenomenon of LinkedIn.

Being an early adopter of LinkedIn back in 2004 I was excited to be able to network and communicate with the wider travel community that also seemed to be early adopters to the service. Because I had already established myself in the wider community abroad, I quickly connected and took on the attitude that I would have an open-door policy accepting anyone in the tourism sector, no matter how long they had been established. And certainly, to lend a helping hand to those in third world countries, just trying to show the beauty of their home countries that weren’t necessarily on the mainstream radar. I have a core community that I have now known since 2004 online and those I have known much longer offline. Unwavering, always there to bounce ideas off and to help spread the word about whatever product we all happened to be selling. Some have moved around to different companies during their careers, some have made complete changes out of tourism and some are still leading their own companies like myself into the great and uncertain world we have now. Some I have helped get a new job or promotion by helping with the recommendations and some I have had to report for serious breaches in trust in our community.

About 6 years ago, I started noticing that people were using LinkedIn as a dating site. Trolling became a common phenomenon that I was very cautious of as well, using Google to identify someone’s picture as theirs to make sure an imposter using the site as a means to gain access to your professional life wasn’t lurking behind the stellar professional photo and accomplishments.

Now, in the current time, if someone isn’t in my direct community, I find myself questioning their motives to connect and wondering what brought them to connect with me in the first place. Where did my trust in the community go? My trust in humanity? My happy go lucky self that accepted everyone for who and what they were and indeed who they said they were?

Is it me that has changed to be more untrusting? Is it my age and the fact that you actually can’t trust everyone carte blanche and I now have healthy boundaries? Or is it a true view on our world today and I’m justified in my fear or worse, everyone feels the same and we are all unjustified in our fears!

The current geopolitical climate has changed us. Where there were no boundaries to me in 2004 and the understanding that everyone was just trying to make a living and show their love for their product and country, I now am afraid. What?! Did I say that? I have fear of my fellow human beings on the planet? Where is the community in this scenario? Are we back to the age of closed societies, instead of open ones where we can all benefit no matter the socioeconomic status one lives in? That term, socioeconomic has only been used since the 1950s. But, in that short space of time, we are really no better off given our current climate of hate, war and all for me, not all for one.

It’s worth the discussion with your own communities about what drives these fears, because communication and knowledge of each other erases fear, hate and I believe, also the boundaries of status. We gain reality on each other’s lives in a way that makes you want to have a wider community than your own back garden. But, in the words of Steely Dan, Only a Fool Would Say That …. I’m willing to be that fool. Are you?

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Only a Fool Would Say That
by Steely Dan

A world become one
Of salads and sun
Only a fool would say that
A boy with a plan
A natural man
Wearing a white Stetson hat

Unhand that gun begone
There’s no one to fire upon
If he’s holding it high
He’s telling a lie

I heard it was you
Talkin’ ’bout a world
Where all is free
It just couldn’t be
And only a fool would say that

The man in the street
Draggin’ his feet
Don’t want to hear the bad news
Imagine your face
There is his place
Standing inside his brown shoes
You do his nine to five
Drag yourself home half alive
And there on the screen
A man with a dream

I heard it was you
Talkin’ ’bout a world
Where all is free
It just couldn’t be
And only a fool would say that

Anybody on the street
Has murder in his eyes
You feel no pain
And you’re younger
Then you realize

I heard it was you
Talkin’ ’bout a world
Where all is free
It just couldn’t be
And only a fool would say that

Community Soup #9 #cong19

Synopsis:

Usually when we think about community an image of a group of people comes to mind, but a community can just be a group of living things with commonality. Living things can include the organs and cells in our bodies, so community can be internal as well as external. It may be said that internal communities that are not working in harmony are living in dis- ease. We can all support our internal community which in turn supports the external community, ease on the inside has a ripple effect on the outside. The answer is right under your nose!

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. An insight on community in the body
  2. The impact of the stress response
  3. The internal ripple effect
  4. How we may support our individual community

About Derval Dunford:

Derval Dunford is co-founder of Suí Mindfulness. She is a qualified MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction) and Yoga Nidra (relaxation) teacher and has also studied Stress Management, Hypnotherapy, Aromatherapy, Counselling Skills. She is co-founder of Mindfulness Matters Ltd, and in this role has trained thousands of Irish primary school teachers and children in mindfulness, relaxation, and well-being.
Derval has been facilitating Mindfulness and Relaxation workshops and courses for many years, has worked with a variety of organisations including regular workshops and courses with the HSE, INTO, and Mayo Education Centre, she speaks regularly at related conferences.
Derval’s interest in mindfulness and yoga nidra was inspired by her life challenges. She suffered from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) in early adulthood, chronic fatigue and MCS (multiple Chemical Sensitivity) in her thirties.
Being someone who has a busy mind, is creative, likes to be productive and dislikes wasting time, Derval, not naturally a ‘zen’ type, has come to realise, that the only way she can be her ‘busy’ self, follow her heart and flourish, is to balance the busyness with a smattering of stillness and calm, balancing the ‘doing’ with a little ‘non-doing’. While she is not a fluent Irish speaker Derval created the world’s first Yoga Nidra practice in Irish and bilingually, and co-created the world’s first children’s mindfulness CD in Irish. www.sui.ie

Contacting Derval Dunford:

You can contact Derval by email or connect with her on Facebook.

By Derval Dunford

What makes the human body AWEsome is that while each system has its own unique structure, its own unique function, they all communicate and work synergistically to create optimum well-being.

According to breath expert Dan Brule there is something far greater at work within the body that co- ordinates and orchestrates the functioning of the 600 billion cells that make it up.  Dan calls this the body’s innate wisdom, I call it community soup!

We normally think of community as an external thing, a group of people living in harmony.  What if we took this thinking and applied it internally?  It may have the potential to positively change to how our bodies and minds operate, it could actually facilitate a new way of living.

We all know that the main in ingredient in soup is water. With this in mind you would expect that every soup would be more or less the same, and it is …to a degree! It is all liquid, a mixture of ingredients blended or cooked to form what we ‘label’ soup. The ingredients that go into the soup make a difference, the quality of the ingredients makes a difference too. The subtle or pungent herbs or spices added, the amount of seasoning…..there are so many factors that impact the overall flavour, and therefore give us the name of the soup. What we garnish the soup with makes a difference, a little swirl of cream on top or a sprinkling of fresh parsley, mint, toasted seeds or nuts all impact how the soup looks and how the soup tastes.

If we looked at the colour of the soup and judged it on that we would actually have no idea what the soup tasted like, our judgement would be based on past experiences of that colour, past experiences of soup, that guess work may be inaccurate.  If we just ate the garnish and judged the soup on that we would miss out on the essence of the soup, the full flavour, the wholesomeness, the aftertaste, the nourishment, the experience of savouring the soup.

The source of the ingredients has an influence, the quality of the ingredients, the seasoning, the blending or cooking process, the garnish, the bowl the soup is served in and the atmosphere of the space. The soup is not one thing, it is made up of a variety of individual items that come together to create the whole.

Our bodies are basically natural chemical soups, the main ingredient for all of our soups is the same……water. There are staple ingredients that many soups have, then there are individual tweaks, a squirt of this or a dash of that, it all impacts the soup.

Most ingredients are added automatically so we may feel that we have no control over the type of soup we swim in. We may be swimming in anxiety soup, angry soup, happy soup, or gazpacho! The interesting fact is that we can change the ingredients, we can change the seasoning, thus we can change the whole community, we can change the soup that we swim in! We just need find, and be willing to try a new recipe.

In modern life the soup that most people swim in is stress soup. It’s not that it is our favourite soup but it is familiar, we know it, we have had it regularly and sometimes that feels safer than trying something new. Even when uncomfortable there is a comfort in what we know. We know this soup so well that it actually makes itself!

The way the body functions is miraculous really, anything that is perceivedas a threat (it need not be an actual threat) fires up the chemical and hormonal ingredients, the body reacts as if it were being confronted by a sabre-toothed tiger. If this were a real life or death situation the chemical soup would be perfect, it would give us the boost we need to run away or fight. In the modern world however it is more likely to be an e mail that you forgot to send, an unpleasant sentence from a co-worker, a worrying thought…all of these make stress soup too! However the soup is not useful in these situations. This is the inappropriate arousal of the stress response, that fact that we replay what was said or what might happen means that we keep the stress soup flowing through our system maybe all day, all night, all week, for several months or years!  This is what causes ill-health or dis-ease. Why? Because when this soup flowing through your system it causes the pupils to dilate, the heartbeat to increase, the muscles to tense up, it supresses the immune system, it interferes with digestion. Simply put …when the body is dealing with an emergency there is no time for general repairs! Every cell of the body is impacted. The wear and tear is enormous, and this way of being is not sustainable.

Stress soup is instant soup, cuppa soup, it is made on autopilot, the system knows how to do it, it has made stress soup millions of times before, it just repeats what is familiar. Stress soup is only meant to be used sparingly, only when essential. It is a powerful soup. That’s why it was useful in our Ancestors time when they were regularly dealing with life threatening situations , stress soup primed them to fight or take flight.

Stress soup has all the ingredients for action. It’s hot, spicy, it’s fiery! It’s the type of soup that you only need a shot of, a small cup is perfect, thus the name cuppa soup! It is useful for a short sharp burst of energy to deal with an emergency. Then we need to go back to our chilled soup.

Gezpacho is cool, it has very different ingredients, wholesome ingredients, and a very different taste. There is a soft, subtle, soothing flavour, it is lightly seasoned and garnished beautifully. The nourishment that this soup provides seeps into every cell and can last for a long time. Gezpacho provides nutrients to encourage sleep, to repair what is damaged, to lubricate joints, to enhance balance and flow.  The problem is that many of us don’t think we can make gezpacho, we think it is something exotic, that only the chosen few have the secret recipe, so we stick with what we know……cuppa soup, we keep the kettle on the boil, that way it can be made anytime and in just one moment, so for many people a constant supply of stress soup pumps out into the system every single day.

The fast pace of modern day life, the incessant pull on our attention, the infinity of distractions, the constant juggling of too many things, the waves of fear and negativity flowing through the media, the waves of fear and negativity flowing through our minds………all of these make stress soup. We can feel threatened, overwhelmed, behind time, that there is no hope, that we’re on our own, that we are the only ones not coping very well. These thoughts and feelings make soup, they activate the stress response, cuppa soup floods the ancient system, simply because it is programmed that way.

An interesting thing that many people don’t stop to think about is that every emotional state has a corresponding breathing pattern……… and….. the opposite is also true. The way you breathe when you are afraid is very different to the way you breathe when you are relaxed. When you breathe rapidly and shallowly it bubbles up the stress soup. When you breathe gently slowly and deeply it ensures a quality nourishing gezpacho with the prefect consistency, it flows beautifully, evenly and effortlessly. The way you breathe can determine the type of soup you swim in. The relaxation response is evoked, this is aptly called ‘Rest & Digest’.

The one system of the body that is both autonomic and under our control is breathing. This is not an accident, this is an opportunity, an opportunity to make a different type of soup. So what does all of the above tell us about community?

When we use the analogy of soup we can see how one thing impacts another how everything is connected, how we are all in this together!  The lungs for example are individual organs but to be effective they need to operate within a community. Everything in that community is different, no two things are the same, yet each has an important role to play. As the modern world becomes more insular we need to keep in mind that maybe weis better than me. Today is the day to support your local community, 30-40 trillion cells all working together, the miracle that is your body, support it with nourishing home-made gazpacho. Then acknowledge that you are just one ingredient in the larger vat of community soup!

By Derval Dunford   www.sui.ie

 

Skerries Community Association – a way to be a part of the decision making in your town… #8 #cong19

Synopsis:

The example of Skerries Community Association shows one way of offering the residents of a town an opportunity to play an active role in shaping its future..

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. A community association (like the one in Skerries) is involved in trying to put together a response to a very diverse range of issues.
  2. This response needs to be one that reflects what is in the best interests of the town and its people.
  3. The task of formulating this, as well as being active in a number of other areas, falls on the shoulders of a relatively small number of volunteers.
  4. Articles in local publications and flyers preceding the AGM encourage people to help shape the future of our town together – will the community have responded?

About Michael McKenna:

MMichael McKenna has lived in Skerries since 2000. He joined Skerries Cycling Initiative and Skerries Guerrilla Gardeners around 2011. In 2014 he became a director of the SCA and served as company secretary from 2016-2018. He is chairperson since September 2018.

Contacting Michael McKenna:

You can connect with Michael on LinkedIn.

By Michael McKenna

WHETHER it is a mini roundabout, a children’s playground, the plans for a new ‘drive-thru’ fast food place, a road opening, a landfill opening, water supply problems and odours from the waste water treatment plant, lifts not working at the train station, it is likely that the Skerries Community Association (SCA) will be involved in trying to put together a response that reflects what is in the best interests of the town and its people. And then there is the work done by SCA groups like Skerries Tidy Towns (winners 2016).

Or other committees like Age Friendly Skerries (reducing isolation for older residents); Town Twinning (Gallic/Gaelic cultural and social exchange now in its 25th year); Sustainable Skerries (empowering people to be more sustainable since 2008); Skerries Cycling Initiative (fighting for the coastal cycle route and generally encouraging people to get on their bikes) etc. The excellent daily Newsflash keeps us in touch with what’s going on in the area. We have unfortunately lost several groups in recent times: Skerries CoderDojo is dormant, Soundwaves is in abeyance and as the Rás Tailteann couldn’t find a sponsor this year so we had no Rás Stage End Committee in 2019.

Our Community Centre, which first opened in 1982, is an engine room of community activity. Run by Manager Sharon Guinane and her team under the supervision of the Board of Management (all volunteers), the Centre is the physical manifestation of the SCA. Many of the sports and arts groups in the town depend on the SCA and the Community Centre for facilities to operate, and all are in need of additional space.
Apart from the professional manager of the Community Centre and her staff, everything the SCA does happens through voluntary effort. Skerries should be proud of what has been achieved by its volunteers. However (and there always is a “However,” isn’t there?) the volunteering effort needs to be continuously renewed, and we need to be adapting to changing circumstances to remain “fit for purpose” in meeting the challenges and to continue to make our great town even better.
The Directors of the SCA Board of Management play a crucial role here. Traditionally, most people who became directors of the Association were already members of one or more of the groups/ committees under the umbrella of the SCA. This was useful to the board for keeping abreast of what was happening at committee level, but it often meant that committee demands limited the time many directors could apply to dealing with company business per se. With the number of active committees under the SCA now reduced to a handful, there is now some space around the board table, so to speak, and this gives us an opportunity to recruit some new directors who are not connected to SCA committee/ groups.

They would be in a better position to respond to the issues and challenges that arise from time to time. I’m thinking of things like the Town Park Development Plan, liaising with new communities and residents’ associations, new road layouts, facilities and services for young people, transport and traffic management issues and creating a more inclusive community. Other directors would then be freed up to focus on the company governance “stuff” such as revising our constitution (Articles and Memorandum of Association), GDPR, Finances and Accounts, Insurance, Website and PR, and so on. With 16 director positions (currently 3 vacancies), the work can be spread fairly so that no director is overloaded.

“The Association is representative of all interests. So we want to involve all members of the community in making Skerries a better place –socially, environmentally, culturally, recreationally and so on. Hence identifying local needs and problems is important. Then we have to take initiative to solve them. This may be on our own as a community or in cooperation with the county council or other statutory agencies.” [Jim Quigley, Chairperson SCA in an interview in 1982].

After a year as Chairperson of the SCA, I now want to get a conversation going with the wider community about how best to move forward. I think Jim Quigley’s description in 1982 of the role of the SCA is as valid now as it was then, but what I’m convinced we need to change is the way we go about meeting the challenges.
At the time of writing this, we were inviting the wider community in Skerries to get involved in the conversation. A version of this article appeared in the local fortnightly magazine, Skerries News, and readers were asked to get in touch with me by email and let me have their thoughts. By the time we are in Cong, I will know what the uptake was on that.

We will also have had our 2019 AGM, on 5th September, to be precise, and for that, all local residents were invited (by a flyer delivered to each household in Skerries that also gives an overview of all the things we did over the last year) to come and join the debate – or just have a listen. As I put it in the article: “It’s our town – let’s help shape its future together!”

Community in Nature #7 #cong19

Synopsis:

Relationship of humans within ecological communities.

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. What is a community.
  2. Homo sapian just one species among many.
  3. We have a lot to learn about the lives of other species.
  4. The benefits of living in a healthy community. 

About Mick Hogan:

Mick Hogan loves connecting, or re-connecting people with nature in whatever way possible, drawing them out of the virtual world and into the here and now. 

His passion is for nature and wildlife, and working with his hands. Mick is a GMIT qualified Marine and Countryside Guide, and Climate Control Ambassador in Mayo, Having travelled extensively, Mick has explored a wide variety of environments. Past work in this area includes guided walks and camping trips with teenagers, teaching simple survival skills. Mick’s present work includes bird survey work, nature workshops, walks and talks with adults and children, and the creation of the beautiful Sui meditation stools. Mick’s irrepressible enthusiasm for the wonder of nature is infectious.  www.sui.ie

Contacting Mick Hogan:

You can contact Mick via SUI.ie 

By Mick Hogan

Definition of Community in ecological terms is as follows; 

‘A group or association of populations of two or more different species occupying the same geographical area and in a particular time.’

A common definition of ‘Community’ in sociology emerges as;

‘A group of people with diverse characteristics who are linked by social ties, share common perspectives, and engage in joint action in geographical locations or settings but experienced differently by people with diverse backgrounds.’

The functions that communities perform include the maintenance of a way of life or culture,  satisfaction of common needs, interests, and ambitions.

Why do we detach the ‘human species’ from what we really are? just another species that inhabits this planet. For some reason we do not see ourselves as part of the ecological definition of community.

As a species we tend see ourselves looking out at nature rather than being an intricate part of it, however our DNA is hard wired to the ecological community. 

So why has this detachment occurred, this disassociation with nature?

A community in nature is not a safe benign place but an active dangerous place full of prey and predators. From the small bacteria and fungi in the soil to the top predator in the chain,

‘Homo sapien’.

Over time as a species homo sapiens have evolved a brain, this allowed us to develop a thought process more advanced than any other species, and allowed us to expand into areas of art, religion, music, complex mathematical work, space exploration etc.  So we must be the most important, special species in existence? (Vanity & egotism) Does this mean we can survive on our own? I don’t think so.

Other species have wonderful complex lives as we are now discovering, just not in the same sphere as homo sapiens. Without these other species working together as communities in life and in death, survival on this planet would be very difficult for humans.

Let’s take our wonderful neighbours trees as an example of a community that we homo sapiens very often take for granted, or even abuse.

We are now discovering that trees (for this purpose I’m including shrubs in the term tree) have  amazing complex lives. 

We fail to understand trees partly because they live on a different time scale than we do. Living in the slow lane, some trees are almost 10,000 yrs old. Trees breathe, travel, get sick, enjoy company, need light, and even talk to each other, similar to human beings. 

Each species of tree has its own language but can also communicate with other species.  

Tress can use scent as a way of sending messages e.g. warning of potential danger just as our pheromones do e.g. sweating when nervous.

Trees can use electrical signals to initiate self defence tactics against insect attacks on their leaves, a similar process to when human skin is attacked. e.g. a bee sting.

The “wood wide web” a term coined by the journal Nature, refers to the research and discoveries of Dr Suzanne Simard. Simard explains how information is exchanged by trees via the root system and the roll that fungi play in that exchange. 

This symbiotic relationship not only connects the trees but also grasses. It is also that possible all plants exchange information this way. Maybe this is the original world wide web?

This type of research is in its infancy, so it remains to be seen how will it unfold. We can only guess at this stage. 

Does the “wood wide web” impact us humans?

This question intrigues me. Is there a subconscious symbiotic relationship that influences our mental and physical health within the wood wide web? I feel that there is and some interesting research has been done in this area in Japan.

“Shinrin-yoku” (forest bathing) is the concept of nature therapy. Simply put, taking a walk in a forest can help relieve the stress from our over stimulated modern minds. Research suggests that the benefits of forest bathing are;

  • Improvement of weakened immunity in the body.
  • Reduced feelings of stress and general sense of wellbeing in the body.
  • Reduction of blood pressure after only 15 min and up to 5 days after spending 1 day in the forest.
  • Increased relaxation of the body due to increased activity in the parasympathetic nervous system. 

Another study conducted by scientists in Pennsylvania on patients recovering from gall bladder removal found that  patients with a room with a view of a natural scene recovered more quickly, were able to leave hospital sooner and used less painkillers than the patients with no natural view.

Are we as human beings not just one part of the ecological definition of a community. If so why do we remain detached? Why are we hell bent on the destruction our natural communities and possibly the destruction of self?

Why not embrace our natural communities? 

By supporting and understanding our fellow species we can repair negative human impact and enable communities to flourish again.  

Sources:    The Hidden life of Trees  by Peter Wohlleben.

                  Shinrin-yoku  by Yoshifumi Miyazaki.

The Door is Always Open #4 #cong19

Synopsis:

The Door is Always Open is about why we explored our values in the context of moving to a new community, what we were looking for and how we moved to a completely new community. Once we had moved the next step was to ensure we took responsibility to integrate and how we have been rewarded this year when we have needed help.

4 Key Takeaways:

  1. Prioritising what’s important to us in a community
  2. Participating in the community
  3. Giving and receiving
  4. Appreciating others

About Carol Passemard:

moved to Ireland from the UK 10 years ago; along with my husband and it was the best thing we have ever done. I have lived in many different places both in the UK and the Middle East and been through the ‘University of Life!’ In moving to Connemara I finally feel as if I have come home even though I am not Irish. I also moved my business, Breakthrough Retreat. Most of my clients come to work on a 1:1 basis (or as a couple) – they usually stay in Clifden for 2 to 3 days. Why do they want my assistance? because they are stuck and at a crossroads in their life. They come from all over Ireland, UK, Europe and I even had a client come from Brazil last year. What I do is help them discover the tools and techniques that can help them to build a better life for themselves. Despite the challenges clients have to deal with clients they usually leave here knowing what they need to do in make change happen. My approach is holistic and it is not counselling. Should they require further assistance after their Breakthrough Retreat we work online. It is very rewarding and a privilege to work with clients who then go and make a significant difference to their lives.

Contacting Carol Passemard:

You can follow Carol on BreakThroughRetreat or contact her through email.

 

By Carol Passemard

During 2005 we started to think about our Autumn years and to explore places that we might move to when our own much loved home would be too big and difficult for us to manage.

We wanted to be near the sea and although we loved the countryside where we were living, in the Pennines between Manchester and Leeds, we were a good two hours drive from any kind of sea.

At the time I was completing some training that focused on the importance of values in peoples’ lives. Using the techniques I was trained in we started to discuss what was really important to each of us and where we dreamed of living.

  • What would it look like
  • Were there any sounds that were important to us
  • Were there any feelings we had
  • What would we say to ourselves when we finally found the place of our dreams?

The list we came up with was as follows:

  • Big skies (we had those already)
  • South facing – Light was important to us (in the Pennines we had learned about the lack of light in the deep dark valleys around us)
  • Sea view – not something we had
  • A place we could renovate and make it 3 bedrooms
  • Close to a community (we had had a taster of community but never really felt that we belonged)
  • Have somewhere close to where we could put a boat in the water.

Little did we expect that this wish list would take us to Ireland and Connemara!  In January 2008 we took possession of the keys for the house of our dreams in Clifden. It ticked all the boxes and we felt very excited about our move.

Community we decided was something we had to work on: We were very conscious of being regarded as ‘Blow Ins’ and decided it was our responsibility to reach out to the community and gain rapport with them. Why should they have to come to us?

They assumed we were just going to have a holiday house here but once we established that our intention was to live here all the year round they were more welcoming – shaking our hands and becoming far more chatty.

We would walk around the town; make conversation with the shop owners. Ask them about their business, listening to their concerns about the economic crash that had recently occurred and empathize over their worries.

We joined various organisations and found out about the various activities that were available in the area. And of course everyone was very curious about who we were, where we had come from and why had we chosen Connemara?

The first year living here was like the honeymoon period – people welcomed us, questioned us, entertained us and we in turn made an effort to reciprocate. We discovered the things and the people that we enjoyed and the things we decided were not for us. We made our own choices.

During the following years we made our mark on various committees and took on various roles that we believed would contribute positively to the community.

And here we are now in 2019 when in May we had the biggest shock of our lives:

During the first May bank holiday, my husband, Paul was feeling unwell. We discovered there was a walk in clinic in our local hospital and decided to take advantage of it. We were quickly seen by the locum doctor who advised us to go straight to the University Hospital in Galway.

After many hours of waiting in A&E Paul was admitted to the short stay ward and I drove home alone. I had trained as a nurse in the early 70s and through my training, although very out of date! I knew and trusted that Paul was in the best place.

Throughout the following two weeks I started to learn the true value of being part of a community.

While we had been waiting in A&E I had contacted one friend to tell her about our demise. She was someone I knew I could call on as a listening ear, she invited me for meals, she, and her husband were there for me.

During the next two weeks. I was in and out of Galway everyday and gradually others offered to feed me, provide help in anyway or generally be there.

At first I felt I could do everything for myself – being an independent soul! I cut the grass and realised I was 10 years older since I had last done that in Yorkshire and it wasn’t quite so easy anymore. The next time it needed to be done a friend came and did it for me. I was contacted by someone else whose son ran a gardening services business and he offered to come and see what needed doing.

Now he comes regularly and helps us out. Eventually Paul returned home and then came the diagnosis. His consultant invited us to Merlin Park where he felt we could have a quiet conversation without the hussle, bussle and demands of the teaching hospital. He explained to us what they had found and that he had already set up an appointment for us to meet with the Oncology Consultant – 2 days hence. It all came as a huge shock but we both appreciated the sensitivity of the consultant and the hospital staff as they were there supporting us.

We made a conscious decision then to share our news in our community. We did not want people talking behind our backs and wondering what had been going on with Paul and possibly misleading others with information. We chose to be up front with them and the response we got was phenomenal.

All the ladies gave Paul a hug and words of encouragement – of course he loved all that attention! Men shook his hand and said how much they admired his courage in being so open and honest about his situation.

There were offers of help and one particular person offered the use of her house in Galway during the times when we had to be in for treatment. That has been incredibly helpful because it means we are able to drive to Galway the afternoon before, go out for a meal (at a romantic table for two) and then be in the outpatient oncology unit the following day for 8am.

We also told everyone we wanted life to continue in as normal way as possible and for as long as possible. We continue to be invited out for meals, entertain and have fun. Knowing that the community is there for us when times get more difficult.

During one particular evening; as we were departing from another enjoyable evening meal I was taken aside and told to remember that “the door is always open”.

This year we have both recognized that we are in the right place. There is a very special kind of love in our community. People want to help and support each other and for this we are eternally grateful.

This is the community we dreamed of and we have found it here in Ireland.