Life was never a perfect world to be born into. Life starts for each of us as part of a family-unit, if we’re lucky. But even then, the imperfect nature of life on Planet Earth is prone to reveal itself. As human beings we are designed to receive nurturing in our early years, which gives our adult selves a firm and stable base to work from. But, in the real world this can be messy at best, non-existent at worst.
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- Examine the real world you grew up in for the first, formative years of your life.
- If it helps, seek professional support as you come to terms with the results of this examination of your childhood years….while acknowledging that, for many, the early years are a very positive experience.
- Allow for the fact that others you will encounter on your road through life may not have engaged in an examination of:
- – the reality of their early lives
- – the formation of their personalities.
- Be realistic about the challenges society faces as we seek to limit the damage that ‘disordered minds’ cause us… as individuals, as communities, and as democracies.
About Alec Taylor:
After working as an announcer, presenter, and interviewer (in Radio in Germany and then TV in the UK ), I switched to Corporate Video. This led to a career as a consultant, coach, and trainer in Communication Skills and Creativity with my own company called COMMUNICATION SKILLS INTERNATIONAL.
My latest coaching-service “MAPIO” (Making A Professional Impact Online) seems to be meeting a widespread need.
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By Alec Taylor
THE END OF ‘EVIL’
How many of us have come to terms with the real world we live in when religions and their myths are stripped away? The use of medieval language to describe the reality of human behaviour is unhelpful in the face of dangerous developments. In homes, in workplaces, in political life.
NAIVETY, GULLIBILITY, PREJUDICE, STIGMA
From the school playground…to the corporate boardroom… to the political party, the reality of what could be defined as ‘normal human behaviour’ is becoming clearer.
Just as we are gradually withdrawing from forms of discrimination against many of our fellow human beings, so we are beginning to call out human behaviour which is abusive and destructive.
Terms such as ‘good’, ‘bad’, and ‘evil’ are increasingly redundant. To replace them, contemporary psychology offers descriptions of the relevant pathologies.
LONGSTANDING SIGNPOSTS TOO LONG IGNORED
It is worth noting that for decades we have enjoyed the excitement and convenience of civil aviation, of taking to the skies on our holiday or on our way to work. We have never questioned the physical and mental wellbeing of the pilots who fly us. We take for granted their assessed suitability for the job, that they undergo regular checks on their physical and mental health.
But only now, today, are we rightly beginning to question the appropriateness of someone with a ‘Cluster B’ Personality Disorder assuming responsibility for a team at work, for a company, for an organisation, for a whole country as its Prime Minister or President.
DESTRUCTIVE ABUSE NOW HAS A NAME
Our legal systems are beginning to define and legislate to hold to account those who use manipulative methods such as ‘coercive control’, ‘blaming and shaming’, ‘gaslighting’, ‘projection’…. to dehumanise, divide, scapegoat, and outcast individuals and groups in society.
For example, those who shouted highly-charged words like “If they want blood, they shall have blood” during Ireland’s “Troubles” should have been held to account in a court of law.
HOW WE CHOOSE TO REACT COUNTS
We shape our own (and other persons’) reality each and every day by our own behaviour….and by how we, in turn, react to – or duck – the behaviour of our fellow
Calling out what we judge to be not acceptable actions and reactions when we are confronted by them, matters. It may prove costly, but there’s a price to be paid for not setting limits.
WHAT LIES AHEAD IN THE REAL WORLD?
- We need to confront pathologically disturbed behaviour
- We need to add new laws that further define and outlaw such behaviour…and protect victims
- In selecting people for responsible positions, we need to assess not only their intelligence and skills, but their personality traits as well
THE SCIENCE IS STARING US IN THE FACE
Here in Ireland, there are experts just around the corner we can turn to….offering impressive evidence and insights:
Ian Hughes: https://disorderedworld.com
Christine Louis de Canonville: https://narcissisticbehavior.net/blog/