Legacy – Be Who You Are #46 #cong24 #legacy

Synopsis:

I wrote this case study to demonstrate where my values came from.
  • History is where our legacy comes from
  • We need to understand our values and why we do what we do
  • I use these values to live my life and help others to discover theirs
  • When their values are aligned and free from negative emotions magic happens
  • Their beliefs change and become more positive through the work we do
  • My aim is to provide a memorable and positive legacy that helps to make this a better world

Total Words

1,239

Reading Time in Minutes

5

Key Takeaways:

  1. Vision
  2. Motivation
  3. Confidence
  4. Courage to make a difference

About Carol Passemard

For the past 15 years I have been a trainer in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Timeline Therapy and Hypnosis.

I am in the business of transforming peoples’ lives in order to help them discover who they are and how they can create a more positive future for themselves.

Contacting Carol Passemard:

You can connect with Carol through Facebook and LinkedIn

By Carol Passemard

Alan was born in London in 1927.  He was an only child and educated at Dulwich College.

In 1944 he left his parental home to find out about joining the Merchant Navy in Liverpool.  He lied about his age and was accepted as an apprentice on a ship bound for India.  He had told his mother he was just going away for a weekend!

Alan rose through the ranks to 2nd Mate. In 1948 he chose to give up the Merchant Navy and instead applied for a place at Peterhouse, Cambridge to study Geography and English.  He loved rowing and was captain of the College Boat Club.

He left Cambridge with a BA degree in 1951 and was appointed housemaster of a boys boarding house at Wellington School, Somerset.  The only problem was that this appointment required him to have a wife, so he married Sheila who had qualified as a state registered nurse.  She became a wonderful housemistress and excellent matron to the 16 boys who resided with them.  They all had to share bathroom facilities and Alan remembers asking Jeffrey Archer to move up so he could have some space to shave.

Alan and Sheila had two children born in 1952 and 1955 while still living in Gatehouse with the 16 boys.

In 1958 the family moved to Uppingham School where Alan taught English, Latin and Religious Studies.  Their third daughter was born in 1960.  The family lived in a large Tudor House which was cold and run down, but at least they had accommodation provided by the school.  Much to Sheila’s delight there were no boys living with them.

Alan was appointed Headmaster in 1964 to Wells Cathedral School.  There were 340 boys aged between 7 – 18. The school provided the Cathedral with around 16 choristers.

Alan and his family moved into a very large boarding house called, The Cedars.  Sixty boys, two matrons, two housemasters and Alan’s family all lived together.  At least this time Alan’s family had their own bathroom.   The family were provided meals from the school kitchen, even during the holidays.

It was part of Alan’s salary package!  And of course this arrangement provided year round employment for the kitchen staff.

Within that first year living in Wells, Alan soon recognised the horror of what was expected of him.  He was heard saying, one day – “Oh God! What have I done?!”

The school was clearly failing and faster than he could have imagined.  His confidence was at rock bottom.  To make things worse certain members of staff would send him very long letters in the holidays telling him all the things he was doing wrong!

However, not to be beaten, he decided that with the help of an outside advisor and support of the governors who played a very active role in the school, he would set up an appeal to build the biggest sports hall in the West of England.  This required a huge amount of extra work and his two older daughters were seen returning from their own school, an hour away,  and set to work stuffing hundreds of envelopes with letters inviting donations to the school’s appeal.

On July 3rd 1969.  Alan’s vision was realised and the Queen Mother came to open the Sports Hall.

He constantly worried about what would happen to the school if a Labour government came into power?  Would they survive?  What was the next thing he needed to do to keep the school going?

All of his fears and concerns were played out during family meals.  Nothing was kept secret.  This was a place where Alan was able to display all of his lack of confidence.  As soon as he was out in public he acted as if he were a man full of confidence and bravado.

His next vision was to introduce girls into the school.  Questions arose. Where should they start?  At the sixth form or the lower end of the school.  After much family discussion and, no doubt debating with the governors, it was decided to admit girls at the lower end and for them to grow up through the school, allowing the boys to get used to having girls around them, and probably vice versa.

September 1969 saw the first 12 girl boarders and 17 day girls arrive.  The school is now fully co-educational.

Another of Alan’s visionary ideas was to make Wells Cathedral School famous.  He had a passion for music, despite being unable to play his mother’s beautiful baby grand piano that lived in his study or be able to sing a note in tune.  However  he never lacked focus and determination.

He started by inviting Yrfah Neaman, principal violinist at the Guildhall School of music to come and meet with him and discuss setting up a scheme for musically gifted violinists.  This led to further meetings with Yehudi Menuhin, Meredith Davis and other eminent musicians.

Since those darker days the school has gone from strength to strength and has recently celebrated its 50th anniversary in launching the scheme for Musically Gifted Children.

In 2017 a beautiful room was dedicated to Alan,  in what used to be the old Theological College, opposite the cathedral.  It is known as the Quilter Hall.  Many lunchtime concerts are played there by students and appreciated by the public.

Alan Quilter was my father and I, his first born.  I remember those days living in Wellington, Uppingham and  the early years of living in the Cedars.

Life moved on when I left home in 1970.  I look back on those very tough days and my father’s lack of confidence. Despite that, Alan’s remarkable vision and tenacity made this beautiful school world famous.

 Today there are 700 attending.  There is a purpose built concert hall and many of the very old buildings have been transformed to accommodate the children.

Vicar’s Close, the oldest street in England houses many staff and students.  The buzz during school term time is palpable and the sound of music is everywhere.

My father would be incredibly proud of the legacy he has left behind.  His legacy continues to live on in the enormous talent of young musicians today, alongside others who may have chosen a more academic slant to their studies and careers.

Alan Quilter passed away on February 14th 1998 at the age of 70.

Purpose, Vision and Legacy #45 #cong24 #legacy

Fiona English

Synopsis:

Purpose, Vision all feed in to creating an inspiring legacy.

Total Words

358

Reading Time in Minutes

1

Key Takeaways:

  1. Inspiring legacy should outlive us
  2. ‘I am what survives me’
  3. Our legacy should include impact on the environment
  4. The journey begins within us

About Fiona English:

Fiona is a keynote speaker, coach and thought leader who combines her extensive experience in global investment markets with expertise and thought leadership in human potential, purpose, leadership and self-expression.

Passionate about the areas of life that are innately human, the red thread that runs through all her work is the exploration of who we are & how we want to show up in the world. Recognised as a contemporary thinker and inspiring speaker in areas such as leadership, purpose, and self-expression, she has spoken at events in over 30 countries globally and was a semi-finalist in the Nordic Business Forum global speaking contest in 2022. In her previous career, she worked in global investment markets for nearly 20 years with institutional clients across multiple markets. In 2015, she was one of 50 women globally chosen to participate in the W50 Program in UCLA, California, aimed at building the next generation of global women leaders.

Through her MSc in Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology, Fiona conducted research into how spirituality, meaning, purpose, and authenticity manifest for individuals in our modern society. She continues to focus on her research areas of personal leadership, meaning and purpose, authenticity and spirituality through her speaking, thought leadership and writing. Alongside her speaking practice, she coaches and advises purpose-led entrepreneurs, business leaders and individuals seeking to deepen their understanding of who they are so they can live, work and lead with greater impact and authenticity.

Contacting Fiona English:

You can connect with Fiona on LinkedIn or see her work on her website.

By Fiona English

In a podcast interview with Luke Sheehan, Fiona English explores the role of purpose and vision in creating an inspiring legacy.  How we leverage our strengths, talents, passion in service of others while relating to the world in front of us.

Building a Future Worth Remembering: A Legacy for All #4 #cong24 #legacy

Synopsis:

Legacy worthy living centers on relationships and lasting influence through nurturing connections, clear visions, informed choices, and giving back. In today’s AI-driven world, taking control of our legacy is crucial. Drawing from the past, innovating now, and planning ahead sets the stage for a substantial for a rich and enduring legacy.

Total Words

1,352

Reading Time in Minutes

5

Key Takeaways:

1. Cultivate Meaningful Relationships
2. Be Legacy Worthy, Decide Wisely
3. The Future is Here, Plan for Legacy
4. Learn, Innovate, Contribute Generously

About Sherrie Rose:

Sherrie Rose, Chief Legacy Officer, crafts dynamic living legacies and succession plans for individuals and businesses. She innovates in legacy preservation and leadership development, and has authored multiple books. Sherrie pioneers future vision and enhavim-driven missions, integrating AI for digital legacy preservation. She volunteers at TEDxSanDiego and mentors the next generation at a transformative learning academy for the post-AI era.

Contacting Sherrie Rose:

You can connect with Sherrie on LinkedIn, Facebook, X and Who’s Who or see her work on Sherrie Rose and Chief Legacy Officer.

By Sherrie Rose

Legacy is a concept that transcends time, bridging the past, present, and future. It is the contribution we leave for the world. It is our masterwork, our imprint of existence that continues to shape and inspire long after we are gone. As we navigate through life, make it a priority to consider what our legacy will be and how we can ensure it is meaningful and enduring. This year, the central theme is “Legacy,” and we will explore this profound idea from various perspectives.

THE REAL CURRENCY IS RELATIONSHIP RICHES

In the experience of creating a legacy, relationships stand as the most valuable currency. The connections we build with family, friends, colleagues, and even strangers, define the richness of our lives. These relationships are the investment in our legacy, as they carry forward our values, memories, and influences.

Building Strong Relationships
• Invest Time and Effort: Genuine relationships require time and effort. Make a conscious effort to nurture and maintain connections.
• Be Present: In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment can strengthen bonds and foster deeper connections.
• Show Appreciation: Regularly express gratitude and appreciation for the people in your life. It reinforces the importance of your relationships.

“The Real Currency is Relationship Riches” is the motto of Sherrie Rose and she shares this with you to embrace.

PURPOSE AND MISSION ARE LED BY VISION

A legacy without vision is like a ship without a compass. Start with clear vision, an enhavim, of what we aim to achieve and the influence we wish to make. Purpose and mission provide direction and meaning to our vision and actions.

Crafting Your Vision
• Identify Core Values: Your values are the foundation of your vision. Reflect on what matters most to you and the difference you wish to make.
• Set Long-Term Plans: Define clear, long-term plans that align with your vision, purpose, and mission.
• Stay Adaptable: Life is unpredictable. Be flexible and willing to adjust your vision as circumstances change.

LIVE SMART. GIVE SMART. LEAVE YOUR MARK.

Living a legacy-worthy life involves making smart choices, both in our personal and professional lives. The Wisdom Model includes giving back to the community and leaving a positive mark on the world.

Smart Living and Giving
• Live Smart: Make informed decisions about your health, and personal development.
• Give Smart: Contribute to causes that align with your values and have a lasting impact. It includes finances for yourself and family as well as monetary donations and your time and skills.
• Leave Your Mark: Engage in activities and projects that reflect your passions and beliefs, ensuring they contribute to your legacy.

CHAMPION YESTERDAY. CREATE TODAY. TRANSFORM TOMORROW.

Legacy is not just about the future; it is also about honoring the past and taking decisive actions in the present. By championing the accomplishments of yesterday, we can create a better today and transform tomorrow. Become a ‘legacy futurist.’

Honoring the Past and Shaping the Future
• Learn from History: Study and appreciate the lessons from the past to avoid repeating mistakes and to build on successes.
• Innovate in the Present: Use creativity and innovation to address current challenges and opportunities.
• Plan for the Future: Set strategies in motion today that will have a lasting impact on the future.

VALUES WORTH SHARING

Your values form the cornerstone of your legacy. They guide your actions, decisions, and interactions with others. Sharing these values ensures that your legacy is built on a foundation of integrity and purpose.

Promoting Core Values
• Lead by Example: Demonstrate your values through your actions, showing others what you stand for.
• Communicate Clearly: Articulate your values in conversations, writings, and teachings.
• Encourage Others: Inspire others to adopt and uphold similar values in their own lives.

MASTERWORK: YOUR IMPRINT ACROSS TIME

Think of your legacy as a masterwork, a combination of experiences, interactions, creations, accomplishments, innovations, and insights that represents your life’s work and contributions. This masterwork is your imprint across time, influencing and inspiring future generations.

Creating Your Masterwork
• Pursue Excellence: Strive for excellence in all that you do, whether in your career, hobbies, or personal endeavors.
• Be Authentic: Your enduring legacy is a true reflection of who you are. Authenticity resonates and endures.
• Mentor Others: Share your knowledge and experience to help others create their own legacies.

BEYOND YOU. BECAUSE OF YOU.

A legacy extends beyond our individual existence. It is about creating a ripple effect that positively impacts others and continues to do so because of our actions and influence. You are central to your legacy.

Extending Your Impact
• Empower Others: Inspire and empower others to achieve their potential and create their own legacies.
• Create Sustainable Change: Focus on initiatives that promote long-term, sustainable change rather than short-term fixes.
• Leave a Positive Footprint: Be mindful of the environmental, social, and economic effects of your actions.

BE LEGACY WORTHY

To be legacy worthy is to live a life of purpose, integrity, and influence. It is about consistently striving to make a difference and leaving behind a world that is better for our having been here.

Living a Legacy-Worthy Life
• Embody Integrity: Uphold high ethical standards in all your actions.
• Show Compassion: Practice empathy and kindness, true relationship riches.
• Demonstrate Resilience: Overcome challenges with determination and grace.

LEGACY IS LONGEVITY

A true legacy endures. It is not fleeting or superficial but rather built on a foundation of meaningful contributions and lasting impact.

Ensuring Longevity
• Build a Solid Foundation: Ensure your legacy is rooted in solid principles and values.
• Adapt and Evolve: Be open to change and willing to adapt your approach as needed.
• Inspire Continuity: Encourage others to continue and build upon your masterwork.

DESIGN YOUR DECADE

Creating a legacy is a long-term endeavor. By designing your decade and crafting enhavim, you can set the stage for lasting influence and meaningful contributions over the next ten years.

Strategic Planning for a Decade
• Set Clear Milestones: Break down your long-term plans into manageable milestones.
• Review and Reflect: Regularly review your progress and make necessary adjustments.
• Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge and celebrate your successes along the way.

FINAL WORDS

Legacy is about more than just the mark we leave; it is about the lives we touch, the changes we inspire, and the long-term influence of our actions. Our stories, our words, are paramount, and with artificial intelligence and the large language models rewriting our words and possibly our legacies, it is up to us to take charge of our legacy. By focusing on relationships, purpose, smart living, and giving, honoring the past, creating in the present, and planning for the future, we can ensure our legacy is rich, meaningful, and lasting. As we navigate through life, let us strive to be legacy worthy, crafting a masterwork that extends beyond us and continues to inspire and transform for generations to come.

“Live Smart. Give Smart. Leave Your Mark.” #cong24 #legacy