Looking for Purpose #31 #cong22

Dennis Deery

Synopsis:

Our purpose should be a guide through our life, but it’s not unusual to lose our way. Hopefully we find a way back…

Total Words

1,206

Reading Time in Minutes

5

Key Takeaways:

  1. Certain people in your life help you to identify your purpose.
  2. We have different purposes at different times in life.
  3. If you lose your way, you can always come back to your purpose.

About Dennis Deary:

Dennis Deery works as a change management consultant in Madison, WI. For the past 20 years he has worked extensively to help industry, non-profits, government agencies and community development organizations to deal with the changes wrought by technology.

Contacting Dennis Deery:

You can connect with Dennis on LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram.  You can also see his work on DennisDeery and IrishRose websites or send him an email.

By Dennis Deery

Lyrics from Simple Man
by Ronnie Van Zant and Gary Rossington</p

Mama told me when I was young
Come sit beside me my only son
And listen closely to what I say
And if you do this it’ll help you
Some sunny day oh yeah

I started wrting this post on the first anniversary of my mother’s passing. Events like this, when our life changes so deeply, are always good occasions for a little introspection. And what better time to look at “purpose” than this, a time when my mother (and my father, thankfully still with us), are so much on my mind, for no two people have had more impact on my approach to life than my parents.

Oh take your time don’t live too fast
Troubles will come and they will pass
Go find a woman yeah and you’ll find love
And don’t forget son there is someone up above

My parents were never the type, unlike the Mama in the intertwined song here, to sit me down and talk to me about values or purpose. They were far more the type to live and demonstrate their example every day. I grew up in a very small town. My dad owned his own business, where I was allowed to tag along regularly, and my mom worked at the school I went to. I had plenty of opportunities to observe them in all aspects of their life, and they made clear through their actions how they expected me to behave as well.

And be a simple kind of man
Oh be something you love and understand
Baby be a simple kind of man
Oh won’t you do this for me son if you can

Both of my parents lived a life of service, to their family and to the community of which they were so much a part. My mom was a Cub Scout den-mother, my dad a Boy Scout troop leader. They were both involved in church committees. They grew one of the biggest gardens in town, and always had produce to give away to those who needed it. Dad served on the local volunteer fire department and ambulance service, and they both volunteered at myriad community events. The message was clear. And in return, the community served our family. We kids knew that we were part of this community, and being a typical small town, we knew most everyone and most everyone knew us. When the inevitable challenges of life came calling, there were lots of people around to support us.

Forget your lust for the rich man’s gold
All that you need is in your soul
And you can do this oh babe if you try
All that I want for you my son is to be satisfied

Like my father, I started my own business at a fairly young age, in my case a tech consulting company. I was fortunate to find some success. As is the style of our industry, I occasionally got into projects that were all-consuming. They were so important at the time, though now, so many years later I barely remember some of them. But they became, for a time, my purpose, what I was living for, and they consumed everything I had to give. The idea of service to others, belonging to a community, having a positive impact on the world, all were subsumed to the needs of the project. Sometimes it was a simple trade, for I needed an income and that was what it took to keep the money flowing. More often it was perhaps a sub-conscious choice, fed by the thrill of solving a problem, creating a system that no one else could. The world of tech can be comfortably black-and-white at times, certainly at the level of writing software. Almost always, the project would end, a sigh of relief would be issued, the impending burn-out would fade, and the self promise of “next time will be different” would be issued.

And be a simple kind of man
Oh be something you love and understand
Baby be a simple kind of man
Oh won’t you do this for me son if you can
Oh yes I will

Eventually though, with enough hindsight and mistakes to look back upon, and a little bit of luck, and more than a little introspection, my true purpose returned. Oddly enough, it was there all along, though I was only honoring parts of it, at times corrupting those pieces in support of false goals. No doubt that is a process we all go through, trading youth for (hopefully) some wisdom. I think some of the systems we’ve created in this world, how we work, what we as a society value, lead people away from their true purpose. It would behoove us to work on those systems and align them with the true purpose of humanity. It would save so mamy people the trouble of following their own purpose when they have to buck the system to do it.

Oh don’t you worry you’ll find yourself
Follow your heart and nothing else
And you can do this oh babe if you try
All that I want for you my son is to be satisfied

For myself, I think it’s true that our real purpose is simple – to be kind, to be of service, to be a member of a community, and to have a positive impact on the people you encounter along the way. We layer on larger purposes – some want to build companies, some want to be active in faith or nonprofit communities, some want to achieve fame, or fortune, or athletic accomplishments. As long as we’re driven by the simple foundation of kindness, empathy and community we can seek that larger purpose comfortable in the knowledge that the world will be a better place for our having contributed. As with so many things in life, get the fundamentals right and the bigger pieces will fall into place. I like to think that I’ve exhibited a purpose to my life that would make my folks proud. Scratch that – I know I did, because with a little age, they did take the time to tell me. Do the same for the people you love.

And be a simple kind of man
Oh be something you love and understand…

Leader, Know Thyself #43 #cong21

Dennis Deery

Synopsis:

Leadership begins with an internal certainty about who you are. Considering your personal leadership philosophy is key to leading well, especially in difficult times.

Total Words

994

Reading Time in Minutes

4

Key Takeaways:

  1. Know yourself.
  2. Spend time thinking about leadership principles and strategy, not just tactics.
  3. Build resilience.
  4. Followership is as important as leadership.

About Dennis Deery

I work as a change management consultant with businesses, nonprofit organizations and communities throughout the US and internationally. Despite having attained a Master’s degree in Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga University in 2018, I am amazed every day at how much I still have to learn about leadership.

Contacting Dennis Deery

You can connect with Dennis on LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram.  You can also see his work on DennisDeery and IrishRose websites or send him an email.

By Dennis Deery

We all have opportunities to be leaders – sometimes we choose them, sometimes they choose us. To properly prepare for those times, I think it’s important to spend time considering what your own personal leadership philosophy is. Herewith, my personal leadership philosophy.

I believe we all are called to be leaders at many times in our lives. I will work to recognize the situations in my life when I am called to be a leader. Through knowing myself and my abilities better, I will seek out opportunities to have a positive impact on the people, places and communities around me. I will seek out and nurture relationships that will buttress me with the strength to serve when the call is difficult.

I will strive to be open and knowable to all who wish to have a relationship with me. True effective leadership requires a relationship of caring, trust and faith between leader and followers, along with the knowledge that the leader of today is the follower of tomorrow. I will work to balance my introvert tendencies with the goal of finding a larger circle of friends who will enrich my life. I will do better at boisterously celebrating the accomplishments of people around me, while continuing to demonstrate to them the quiet joy I believe we can all find in solitude. I will trust first, even when it feels easier to not do so.

I will continue my passion to be a lifelong learner driven by intense curiosity about the world. I know that the world we face tomorrow will be different than today, with new challenges and opportunities. Only through a constant willingness to learn and adapt can I participate in creating that new world. I will seek out formal educational opportunities, but I will also intentionally reflect to find the lessons, big and small, in everyday life. I will continue to voraciously consume books, but I will work for greater balance by seeking out friends and teachers who can boost the human dimension of my learning. I will ask for and remain open to the guidance of my peers, knowing that at times they can see me more clearly than I can see myself.

I will be resilient. When faced with adversity and failure, I will strive to remember the many incredible experiences that have created the person I am today. I will embrace the lessons to be learned and move on to new adventures. I will remember the difficulties as events that provided those lessons, but I will not relive them in ways that damage my future. When pushed by circumstance I will bend and change, but not beyond the core that makes me who I am.

I will innovate. Driven by Einstein’s admonition that “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them,” I will work to always understand all sides of an issue in pursuit of the way forward. I will remember that all members of a community bring a unique perspective to the table, and those perspectives must be integrated to fully understand issues and implement change.

I will have fun. No matter the situation, I will remember the bigger picture, the better world we are all striving for, and I will bring that thought to the task at hand. I will not lead from above or ahead, but from beside. I will make sure that while the work is shared equally, we will also share the joy equally. I will work to bolster the inner spirit of the people around me, to be there as a sounding board and support whenever needed.

I will strive for wholeness in all I do. From work to personal relationships to volunteer activities, I will be the same person, driven by the same values. I will not sacrifice one realm of my existence with the false hope that other realms will make up for it. I will bring all of who I am to any endeavor in which I am involved, and I will spend time on activities which feed all aspects of my being. I will always find time for reflection to ensure that I am centered and balanced.

I have a vision for the world in which I want to live, and I will spend the rest of my life learning the skills, building the relationships and taking the actions that are needed make that vision reality. I look at the world today and I see the ways in which it is better because of the work of those who came before us. From their example, I know that we all have that ability, that duty. I will always encourage people, to help them remember that they can change the world. I will surround myself with people who will remind me, when I forget, that I can change the world. I will share my vision with those around me, through the written and spoken word and in all my actions.

On each day of my journey I will be content, but I will never be complacent.

Society 3.0 Needs Better Systems #42 #cong20

Synopsis:

The structures that we’ve built to support and manage our society were created hundreds or even thousands of years ago. These structures memorialize old ways of doing business. If we are to effectively move forward into Society 3.0, we will need to redesign these structures in a more agile form to better support society.

Total Words

1,200

Reading Time in Minutes

5

Key Takeaways:

  1. Societal norms lag technological development. This cultural lag can be combated by better education.
  2. For that to happen, we need to view education as a continuous effort, not a singular event.
  3. Corporate and government systems need to be reformed to be more resilient to shocks and to allow more employee and citizen participation.
  4. We need to rethink personal income and work life to ensure that citizens have time to participate in Society 3.0.

About Dennis Deery:

 Dennis Deery is the owner of Irish Rose Consulting, a technology consulting firm currently located in Madison, WI. For the past 25 years he has worked with industry, non-profits, government agencies and community development organizations to help them effectively use technology to improve organizational effectiveness. He has implemented technology solutions that count cucumbers and blocks of cheese, web sites that manage fantasy football leagues, and even some serious systems, including one that helped planes avoid colliding.

Over the past several years Dennis has turned his attention to change management consulting, helping organizations and communities plan for and adapt to the rapid pace of change in technology and society.

Contacting Dennis Deery:

 You can connect with Dennis LinkedIn, Instagram, Twitter or see his website.

By Dennis Deery

2020 is likely to be remembered as the year that the last vestiges of remaining facade fell off the front of Society 2.0. Continuing economic challenges for the vanishing (vanished?) middle-class led to surging populist movements around the globe. Incidents of extreme weather continued to increase, leaving many communities fighting for their very existence. Brexit found the people of the United Kingdom wishing to pull back from the world, while finding that not as simple as possible. The same currents led America to also pull back from the world, resulting in several years of tumult followed by an election display worthy of any warlord-led country. People of color and marginalized citizens around the world organized to protest for equal rights only to be greeted by ever-escalating violence as the powerful tried to protect the status quo. And refugees around the world searched for a welcoming place to call home. All of this took place in a world wracked by the COVID pandemic, an event many had long warned about, but few had prepared for.

Whew.

If we can survive the dying throes of Society 2.0, it is high time for Society 3.0!

I believe many of the issues that are facing us today are a result of 20th (and 19th and 18th) century societal and governance systems that have not been updated to handle the rapid pace of change we’re experiencing in the 21st century. Nearly everything about how our governments work has been unchanged for hundreds of years. While individuals have to some extent adopted social media and do interact online, one need only join a Zoom meeting since the start of COVID to see how much people still need to learn about day-to-day interactions online. We are far from developing the norms and mores for online life that we rely so heavily upon in our social interactions in real life. Non-governmental organizations and social clubs are still largely stuck in the model of collecting money from people tied to a place or single issue, and few take a systems view of the issues facing our world. All of these organizations struggle with citizen participation as people spend more time at work, work that may keep them from truly inhabiting a single place like people did in days gone by.

In 1922 William Ogburn coined the term “cultural lag”, describing the idea that traditional cultural values adapt more slowly than technology, causing a period of maladjustment for society. I think many of the issues we’re facing today are a result of that maladjustment. So how do we address it?

In most societies today, education is still viewed as an event that takes place early in life, and then ends. Our children spend a dozen or slightly more years in primary, secondary and tertiary education. Upon completion of this education, people join the work force, never to darken the door of a school again as a student. This approach is clearly mismatched to the needs of today. Spending 10 years, or 5 years, or even a year away from education can leave a person ill-informed about new technologies and their impact on society. We see this in public hearings where our elected officials try to understand technology that they may wish to regulate. We see it in the workplace when colleagues struggle with new ideas and new tools coming into the office or factory.

Our society needs to treat education as a life long process that is never complete. It should become the norm for people to attend virtual and in-person training events on a regular basis. Some of the ongoing education can focus on day-to-day skills – use of online tools, new work methods, etc. But much like a strong liberal arts education, some of these ongoing education sessions should focus on critical thinking and citizenship skills. Groups can be gathered to debate and discuss current issues facing the society, with a focus on developing policy responses to the issues.

The advantage of this approach is that it can then feed into greater citizen participation in our governments. If a citizen was required to attend a month of training focused on policy issues every two years, this training could be paired with elected officials, who would reap the benefit of hearing directly from dozens of citizens on pressing issues. Citizens could identify their areas of interest, helping to provide direct expertise to the government in support of policy development. Additionally, the government could open virtual briefing sessions, allowing more direct citizen input into the process. Perhaps, given the increasing strength of online tools, governments can explore more direct democracy options, allowing citizens to vote directly on proposals.

Finally, we need to address the well-being of citizens. Too many people today are unable to participate in government or civil society because they are overwhelmed working two or more jobs simply to provide for their family. I believe it is time to explore universal basic income, providing every citizen with a base income to ensure their basic needs are met. By pairing this with a higher level of involvement in government activities or non-profit organizations, I believe it could be viewed as a citizen dividend rather than a handout.

We are incredible at developing new technologies and tools for work and play. We have been less good at helping society as a whole to adapt to these new tools. Society 3.0 can be realized if we decide that society’s adaptation to these tools is as important as the revenue that can be realized through these inventions.